Crossdresser Finds Support And Connection In South Carolina LGBTQ Community.


My name is Savannah Hauk and I’m from Garden
City, Michigan. In my early twenties, I moved to New York
and found Savannah. That was when, you know, the glitz and glamor
of, like, the big city… so not midwest Detroit. So, you know, out there, living in the city,
like, realizing how I can be this person. And so, like, in early nineties, I went ahead
and proclaimed the title and moniker of a crossdresser. And Savannah became. You know, a lot of people don’t understand
what a crossdresser is. I mean, I am non-transitioning. I do this periodically but it is a very important
aspect of what I do in my presentation, in wanting to express that. Even crossdressing crosses a huge spectrum. We’re not all fetishists, we’re not all
weekend warriors. I mean some people do it do de-stress after
work. Some people like myself just want to go out
and be ourselves and this is truly a part of who I am. It was really funny, it was in those years
after that, it was really, like… not a fantasy but it was really something that you could
really dig into. I mean, the nightlife was so amazing, friends
were so amazing, and over a period of years between like ‘97 early 2000s, I mean, I
grew with a set of friends that were crossdressers and we had private events that, you know,
I could – I found my people, found my tribe, which was, like, amazing to be able to do
that. Unfortunately, come to – a couple years ago,
I was priced out of the city altogether. I wasn’t even living in the city. I was living on Long Island but I couldn’t
live there anymore. I had asked my company to relocate me down
to a branch in South Carolina in the upstate, which was terrifying because I had to do the
move. I didn’t want to actually lose my job or go
looking for a new career. So I did it and then realized I’m going to
some place where guns are plentiful and is super conservative.. Southern Baptists, traditional values, which
was a terrifying prospect for me. So I was giving up everything. All that confidence and the bravery and, like,
the “I don’t give a damn” that I had in New York was gone. In just an instant. So, like, basically the trip down, the roadtrip
down, took it all away from me. Now all of a sudden, there’s now an uber desperation
because I couldn’t find those people before I moved and now on down there, strictly in
male mode because I’m terrified to just walk outside the door as Savannah. We were looking everywhere could on on social
media to find a place or a group of people who were like me. So I’m sitting here in the house, my poor
girlfriend is, like, trying to look up stuff online with me. We’re on the back porch, trying to find anything
I can do to hang my hat on, to find my community, my people. We did look at FetLife and we looked at meetacrossdresser.com. And we were looking for that cross-section
of people that I knew I could connect with, the other crossdressing cross-section. That’s why we couldn’t find it within 100
or 200 miles of our location in South Carolina, North Carolina. It just didn’t exist. So after, like, a few months of being there,
depression set in. I was morose, I was strictly in male mode
with, like, no way to dress. I mean, I could dress in the house, which
felt – would feel like a cheat. When you’re at home and you spend all this
time getting ready and then you’re sitting at home on the couch, that is a validation
that what you’ve done or are doing is shameful and I don’t want to feel shame. The whole point of being me is to be visible
and out. And it just – so my girlfriend and I were
sitting. We finally found a meetup group. There was just the LG+ group they got together
once a month, the, like, the third Friday of every month. And I texted the author and I’m like, “Hey,
is it okay if I come?” He’s like, “Sure, why not?” I was like, “Well, because I’m a cross
dresser. Like, you’re not my people per se. Is it okay? Will you accept me to come to these?” He was like, “Yeah, absolutely. Come.” So that night I got ready and I walked out
the door. Kind of twilight. So I’m in the parking lot. There’s a couple people standing around just
talking and I’m now fearful that they may see me and say something. They didn’t. Got to the car. Made my way to the restaurant. And I’m also sitting in my car looking at
people around me, worried that they’re gonna say something and accost me or give me a look. And I can finally get the nerve to go inside. All of a sudden, I’m in a sea of older gay
gentlemen, parents of trans kids, trans masculine thems, and just allies. And just all of a sudden, there’s this huge
community that where – I’m still the only crossdresser, but all of a sudden, it’s like
my world had exploded outward to something much bigger than just a bunch of crossdressers. It was actually – I am now telling my story
to gay men who don’t know what a crossdresser is. And, you know, me learning about how it’s
like to be a parent of a trans child. It was just really an amazing experience to
probably get to realize I didn’t have to just be with my own kind but really be with the
entire community and be accepted. And for me that was a revelation. So I – really, the irony is I had to move
to South Carolina to realize that the group is so much bigger, so much more accepting
that I even realized it was or what I needed. So it really was an eye-opener and kind of
like transformative for me. Broadening the search for the community for
me ended up… again, I made friends that I never would have made, I made connections
I never would’ve made. I heard stories I never would have heard had
I not just been in the same room. The importance of being that person, the importance
of hearing stories, being an active listener, in just just taking it in… I mean, if you’re empathetic and sympathetic,
you are gonna be enriched by what you hear in the story. And just because it’s not you, just because
it’s not your brand or your label, I think that’s limiting. I think that you always have to try to look
outside because you may find that one of those people that you don’t think you’re like – you’re
exactly like.

20 thoughts on “Crossdresser Finds Support And Connection In South Carolina LGBTQ Community.”

  1. I love this! Remember that crossdressers actually used to be included in the trans community and there are trans and non binary people who are crossdressers too.

  2. This is beautiful! It's important to increase inclusivity among those in the LGBTQ+ community with hope, love and support. Kudos to you, girl!

  3. I love the closing thought she puts out there the person you think is not at all like you may very well be exactly like you.  Something very real and honest.

  4. I'm loving this terrific channel more & more…I'm a Senior citizen & am back to living in an ULTRA conservative Mid-Western City after having spent 17 years in So.Calif., where the LGBTQ community is so open & "present" in regular everyday life…As a young child in this same Midwestern city, I can still remember (all too well) the racist adults (& anyone "different" from them, who often spoke so disparagingly of the "Black" & Jewish" people living among our communities…and I so easily remember the very awkward racial tension that just seemed to "bubbling over " in the air, but if you would have been a member of the LGBTQ community back then, you would have been considered the "lowest of the low, & literally be horrified about the disrespectful hatred that came out of the mouths of these self-righteous mouths…These hissing sanctimonious CLODS were the so called "church people"..from "good decent families"…I get a knot in my stomach also remembering how they'd "politely" cover their mouths with a hand & then literally hiss with hatred out of the corners of their mouths when speaking about "QUEERS"…That was the "word" they used so freely back then, & it was meant to be derogative…
    I know humanity has a long way to go yet, but thank God for all the positive changes we now see.

  5. I'm a straight guy and sadly we all have to have labels whether straight, gay, etc. We are all humans and this lady here or crossdresser is a wonderful person and I support her 100%. As for scumbags like Donald Trump, Mike Pence, Franklin Graham, and many pathetic others….FUCK YOU!!!!!!

  6. This story is fantastic! They seem like such an intelligent and kind person. (Does anyone know what pronouns crossdressers use?)

  7. These videos pop up first thing in the morning for me (I'm from the UK) and there's honestly no better way to start your day! Always gives me a pep-in-my-step hearing stories like this 🙂

  8. What a great video. That is the danger of New York: you can find so many people exactly from your niche, that you are actually isolated from a broader range of experiences.

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