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SPEND THE NIGHT WITH. WE TAKE A CLOSER LOOK IF THESE WE TAKE A CLOSER LOOK IF THESE APPS BROADEN US OR CREATE BIAS? APPS BROADEN US OR CREATE BIAS?>>Reporter: DATING APPSES GIVE>>Reporter: DATING APPSES GIVE YOU A LOT MORE CONTROL OVER WHO YOU A LOT MORE CONTROL OVER WHO YOU WANT TO SEE, HOW YOU WANT TO YOU WANT TO SEE, HOW YOU WANT TO SEE THEM AND HOW TO CUT THINGS SEE THEM AND HOW TO CUT THINGS OFF IF THEY’RE NOT GOING WELL. OFF IF THEY’RE NOT GOING WELL. ESPECIALLY FOR WOMEN. ESPECIALLY FOR WOMEN.>>YOU START TO FEEL LIKE YOU’RE>>YOU START TO FEEL LIKE YOU’RE IN THIS DEFENSIVE POSTURE ALL IN THIS DEFENSIVE POSTURE ALL THE TIME OF, LIKE, I’M HERE BUT THE TIME OF, LIKE, I’M HERE BUT I APPRECIATE THE OFFER BUT I I APPRECIATE THE OFFER BUT I DON’T WANT A DRINK FROM YOU. DON’T WANT A DRINK FROM YOU.>>Reporter: AARON AND SARA ARE>>Reporter: AARON AND SARA ARE ACTORS AND PRODUCERS AND WORKING ACTORS AND PRODUCERS AND WORKING BEHIND THE CREATIVE SCENE OF BEHIND THE CREATIVE SCENE OF BUMBLE. BUMBLE.>>I FELT LIKE I WAS GOING LIKE>>I FELT LIKE I WAS GOING LIKE THIS. THIS. I THINK WHEN YOU HAVE IT ON YOUR I THINK WHEN YOU HAVE IT ON YOUR PHONE, YOU HAVE CONTROL OF THE PHONE, YOU HAVE CONTROL OF THE CONVERSATION AND IT’S NOT SCARY CONVERSATION AND IT’S NOT SCARY TO SAY TO SOMEONE, YOU KNOW TO SAY TO SOMEONE, YOU KNOW WHAT, YOU CLOSE IT OUT. WHAT, YOU CLOSE IT OUT.>>I THINK WOMEN ARE BUSIER AND>>I THINK WOMEN ARE BUSIER AND THERE ISN’T AS MUCH TIME TO GO THERE ISN’T AS MUCH TIME TO GO OUT AND FIND PEOPLE. OUT AND FIND PEOPLE.>>Reporter: THIS ISN’T>>Reporter: THIS ISN’T SOMETHING WE’RE JUST SEEING IN SOMETHING WE’RE JUST SEEING IN THE U.S. THE U.S. DATING APPS LIKE BUMBLE GIVE DATING APPS LIKE BUMBLE GIVE WOMEN THE OPPORTUNITY TO MAKE WOMEN THE OPPORTUNITY TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE, TOO. THE FIRST MOVE, TOO.>>I FEEL LIKE WOMEN IN INDIA>>I FEEL LIKE WOMEN IN INDIA ARE AT A PRECIPICE RIGHTS NOW ARE AT A PRECIPICE RIGHTS NOW WHERE THEY WANT TO TAKE THE WHERE THEY WANT TO TAKE THE FUTURE IN THEIR OWN HANDS. FUTURE IN THEIR OWN HANDS. BUMBLE IS NOT JUST A DATING BUMBLE IS NOT JUST A DATING SITE. SITE. ET CETERA A SOCIAL NETWORK. ET CETERA A SOCIAL NETWORK. I LOVE THE ACCESSIBILITY AND I LOVE THE ACCESSIBILITY AND POWER IT GAVE WOMEN IN INDIA. POWER IT GAVE WOMEN IN INDIA.>>Reporter: WHILE USERS GAIN>>Reporter: WHILE USERS GAIN CONTROL IN SOME WAYS, THESE APPS CONTROL IN SOME WAYS, THESE APPS MAY BE LEAVING OTHERS BEHIND. MAY BE LEAVING OTHERS BEHIND. IT’S BEEN A LONG TIME SINCE I’VE IT’S BEEN A LONG TIME SINCE I’VE BEEN IN THE DATING GAME MYSELF BEEN IN THE DATING GAME MYSELF BUT I SEE MY FRIENDS SWIPING BUT I SEE MY FRIENDS SWIPING AWAY AND BEGAN WONDERING, HOW IS AWAY AND BEGAN WONDERING, HOW IS THE DESIGN OF THESE APPS THE DESIGN OF THESE APPS IMPACTING OUR PREFERENCES WHEN IMPACTING OUR PREFERENCES WHEN IT COMES TO OUR LOVE LIFE? IT COMES TO OUR LOVE LIFE?>>THIS IS A GAME CALLED MONSTER>>THIS IS A GAME CALLED MONSTER MATCH. MATCH. IT’S DESIGNED TO HELP US BETTER IT’S DESIGNED TO HELP US BETTER UNDERSTAND DATING APPS AND THE UNDERSTAND DATING APPS AND THE BIASES THAT CAN EXIST WITHIN BIASES THAT CAN EXIST WITHIN THEM. THEM. I’M GOING TO PLAY IT. I’M GOING TO PLAY IT.>>Reporter: THIS ONE ACTUALLY>>Reporter: THIS ONE ACTUALLY MIMICS HOW REAL DATING APPS WORK MIMICS HOW REAL DATING APPS WORK BUT USES MONSTERS INSTEAD OF BUT USES MONSTERS INSTEAD OF REAL PEOPLE. REAL PEOPLE.>>I’VE GOT MY AVE TAR.>>I’VE GOT MY AVE TAR. TO GET TO KNOW SOMEONE LIKE ME TO GET TO KNOW SOMEONE LIKE ME YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO ALL FIVE YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO ALL FIVE OF MY MOURTS. OF MY MOURTS. TALKING ABOUT MY LIKES, WARN TALKING ABOUT MY LIKES, WARN FIRE IN THE DUNGEON. FIRE IN THE DUNGEON. NOW I’LL START MATCHING. NOW I’LL START MATCHING. THERE ARE CONSEQUENCES TO HOW THERE ARE CONSEQUENCES TO HOW YOU SWIPE. YOU SWIPE. WE’LL TELL YOU AS YOU GO ALONG. WE’LL TELL YOU AS YOU GO ALONG.>>WE HAVE RARY, LEAST LIKELY TO>>WE HAVE RARY, LEAST LIKELY TO SPEND THE NIGHT, LEAST LIKELY TO SPEND THE NIGHT, LEAST LIKELY TO GET ALONG WITH YOUR KIDS. GET ALONG WITH YOUR KIDS. PASS. PASS.>>Reporter: DESIGNERS SAY THEY>>Reporter: DESIGNERS SAY THEY CREATED IT TO ILLUSTRATE HOW THE CREATED IT TO ILLUSTRATE HOW THE APPS WORK AND HOW THE ALGORITHMS APPS WORK AND HOW THE ALGORITHMS CAN EXACERBATE BIASES. CAN EXACERBATE BIASES.>>WE WANT TO SHOW THIS IS A>>WE WANT TO SHOW THIS IS A PROBLEM WITH THE ALGORITHM. PROBLEM WITH THE ALGORITHM. I DON’T WANT TO BLAME THE USER. I DON’T WANT TO BLAME THE USER. CAN ONE HIGHLIGHT THE BIAS THAT CAN ONE HIGHLIGHT THE BIAS THAT GOES ON WITH DATING. GOES ON WITH DATING.>>Reporter: JESSEIE PUBLISHED>>Reporter: JESSEIE PUBLISHED RESEARCH, EXAMINEING 25 TOP APPS RESEARCH, EXAMINEING 25 TOP APPS>>THE STATISTICS ARE KIND OF>>THE STATISTICS ARE KIND OF CRAZY. CRAZY. ABOUT A THIRD OF MARRIAGES ARE ABOUT A THIRD OF MARRIAGES ARE NOW INITIATED THROUGH DATING NOW INITIATED THROUGH DATING APPS. APPS. AS RECENTLY AS A FEW YEARS AGO, AS RECENTLY AS A FEW YEARS AGO, 60% OF QUEER CONNECTIONS WERE 60% OF QUEER CONNECTIONS WERE INITIATED THROUGH DATING APPS. INITIATED THROUGH DATING APPS. THIS IS A HUGE PART OF OUR LIFE THIS IS A HUGE PART OF OUR LIFE THAT ISN’T GOING TO GO AWAY ANY THAT ISN’T GOING TO GO AWAY ANY TIME SOON. TIME SOON.>>IT’S IMPORTANT WHEN YOU THINK>>IT’S IMPORTANT WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT INTIMACY AND ABOUT INTIMACY AND RELATIONSHIPS. RELATIONSHIPS.>>Reporter: WHAT RESPONSIBILITY>>Reporter: WHAT RESPONSIBILITY DO DATING APPS HAVE TO CREATE AN DO DATING APPS HAVE TO CREATE AN EQUITABLE ENVIRONMENT. EQUITABLE ENVIRONMENT. I THINK THE BIGGEST THING, I I THINK THE BIGGEST THING, I WOULD SAY THIS IS NOT JUST FOR WOULD SAY THIS IS NOT JUST FOR DATING APPS BUT FOR ANY KIND OF DATING APPS BUT FOR ANY KIND OF APP OR SITE THAT ALLOWS PEOPLE APP OR SITE THAT ALLOWS PEOPLE TO INTERACT WITH EACH OTHER IS TO INTERACT WITH EACH OTHER IS TO REALIZE THE DESIGN HAS POWER. TO REALIZE THE DESIGN HAS POWER. WHEN YOU’RE PUTTING IN A SORTING WHEN YOU’RE PUTTING IN A SORTING AND FILTERING FEATURE, WHAT AND FILTERING FEATURE, WHAT YOU’RE SAYING IS IT’S OKAY TO YOU’RE SAYING IS IT’S OKAY TO SORT AND FILTER PEOPLE BY RACE. SORT AND FILTER PEOPLE BY RACE. WHEN YOU USE AN ALGORITHM THAT WHEN YOU USE AN ALGORITHM THAT USES DATA FROM THE PAST, YOU’RE USES DATA FROM THE PAST, YOU’RE SAYING PAST PREFERENCES MUST SAYING PAST PREFERENCES MUST DEFINE FUTURE PREFERENCES. DEFINE FUTURE PREFERENCES.>>Reporter: MY TIME ON MONSTER>>Reporter: MY TIME ON MONSTER MATCH SHOWED ME WHAT JESSIE WAS MATCH SHOWED ME WHAT JESSIE WAS TALKING ABOUT IN REAL TIME. TALKING ABOUT IN REAL TIME. DATING APP FIRST SWIPE TO FIGURE DATING APP FIRST SWIPE TO FIGURE YOU OUT. YOU OUT. THIS IS CALLED THE ALGORITHM. THIS IS CALLED THE ALGORITHM. YOU USE ONE FROM REAL DATING YOU USE ONE FROM REAL DATING APPS IN THIS GAME. APPS IN THIS GAME.>>I MATCHED WITH A SPIDER ON>>I MATCHED WITH A SPIDER ON MONSTER MATCH AND SHE EXPLICITLY MONSTER MATCH AND SHE EXPLICITLY ASKED ME, ARE YOU COOL WITH ASKED ME, ARE YOU COOL WITH SPIDERS? SPIDERS? LIKE, DO YOU HAVE A BIG FEAR OF LIKE, DO YOU HAVE A BIG FEAR OF SPIDERS? SPIDERS? AND IT JUST REMINDS YOU OF — IS AND IT JUST REMINDS YOU OF — IS SOMEONE GOING TO ACCEPT ME FOR SOMEONE GOING TO ACCEPT ME FOR WHO I AM EVEN THOUGH I MIGHT BE WHO I AM EVEN THOUGH I MIGHT BE A DIFFERENT RACE THAN THEM. A DIFFERENT RACE THAN THEM.>>TALKING ABOUT SOME OF THE>>TALKING ABOUT SOME OF THE SPECIFIC BIASES YOU WERE TRYING SPECIFIC BIASES YOU WERE TRYING TO ILLUSTRATE THROUGH THE GAME. TO ILLUSTRATE THROUGH THE GAME.>>IN REALITY I THINK THE WAY>>IN REALITY I THINK THE WAY THE SOFTWARE IS WRITTEN IS THE SOFTWARE IS WRITTEN IS BIASED AGAINST PEOPLE. BIASED AGAINST PEOPLE. YOU’RE PUT INTO A VERY NARROW YOU’RE PUT INTO A VERY NARROW RANGE OF PEOPLE. RANGE OF PEOPLE.>>Reporter: OTHER RESEARCH>>Reporter: OTHER RESEARCH SUGGESTS DATING APPS ARE SUGGESTS DATING APPS ARE INCREASING INTERRACIAL DATING BY INCREASING INTERRACIAL DATING BY GIVING YOU EXPOSURE TO GROUPS GIVING YOU EXPOSURE TO GROUPS YOU MIGHT NOT OTHERWISE SEE. YOU MIGHT NOT OTHERWISE SEE. THEY SHOW WHAT HAPSZ WHEN MORE THEY SHOW WHAT HAPSZ WHEN MORE LINKS ARE ADDED AT RANDOM. LINKS ARE ADDED AT RANDOM. THE LEVEL OF INTERRACIAL THE LEVEL OF INTERRACIAL MARRIAGE INCREASED MARRIAGE INCREASED SIGNIFICANTLY, PLUS THOSE SIGNIFICANTLY, PLUS THOSE MARRIAGES WERE STRONGER. MARRIAGES WERE STRONGER. THE REAL-TIME DATA SEEMS TO THE REAL-TIME DATA SEEMS TO SUPPORT THIS DATA. SUPPORT THIS DATA. INTERRACIAL MARRIAGES BEGAN TO INTERRACIAL MARRIAGES BEGAN TO RISE AS DID THE POPULARITY OF RISE AS DID THE POPULARITY OF ONLINE DATING. ONLINE DATING. APPS LIKE BUMBLE SEEM TO BE APPS LIKE BUMBLE SEEM TO BE KEENLY AWARE OF ALL THIS. KEENLY AWARE OF ALL THIS. A REPRESENTATIVE FROM BUMBLE A REPRESENTATIVE FROM BUMBLE SAID THE APP DOES NOT ASK USERS SAID THE APP DOES NOT ASK USERS TO SHARE INFORMATION ABOUT THEIR TO SHARE INFORMATION ABOUT THEIR RACE OR ETHNICITY. RACE OR ETHNICITY. THEY ALSO CLAIM THEIR ALGORITHM THEY ALSO CLAIM THEIR ALGORITHM DOESN’T CONSIDER THESE DOESN’T CONSIDER THESE ATTRIBUTES WHEN PRESENTING ATTRIBUTES WHEN PRESENTING POTENTIAL MATCHES. POTENTIAL MATCHES. THEY ALSO SAY INCLUSION AND THEY ALSO SAY INCLUSION AND DIVERSITY, QUOTE, INFORM THE WAY DIVERSITY, QUOTE, INFORM THE WAY WE BUILD OUR USER BASE, OUR TEAM WE BUILD OUR USER BASE, OUR TEAM AND OUR GROWTH STRATEGY. AND OUR GROWTH STRATEGY. BUT IS THERE STILL ROOM FOR BUT IS THERE STILL ROOM FOR IMPROVEMENT ACROSS THE BOARD? IMPROVEMENT ACROSS THE BOARD?>>JUST LOOKING AT THE WAYS ALL>>JUST LOOKING AT THE WAYS ALL THESE TINY FEATURES OF A SITE OR THESE TINY FEATURES OF A SITE OR APP MIGHT CAUSE HARM TO SOME APP MIGHT CAUSE HARM TO SOME PEOPLE, EVEN IF THEY DO BENEFIT PEOPLE, EVEN IF THEY DO BENEFIT A MAJORITY, IS A BIG A MAJORITY, IS A BIG RECOMMENDATION. RECOMMENDATION. IS IT REALISTIC FOR SORTING AND IS IT REALISTIC FOR SORTING AND FILTERING FEATURES TO GO AWAY? FILTERING FEATURES TO GO AWAY?>>IT MIGHT BE.>>IT MIGHT BE. THIS IS COMING UP A LOT WITH THIS IS COMING UP A LOT WITH FACIAL RECOGNITION. FACIAL RECOGNITION. WHEN IS IT OKAY TO CATEGORIZE WHEN IS IT OKAY TO CATEGORIZE PEOPLE AT ALL? PEOPLE AT ALL? WHEN DO YOU WANT TO SAY, THIS IS WHEN DO YOU WANT TO SAY, THIS IS SOMEONE ALLOWED IN THE SPACE AND SOMEONE ALLOWED IN THE SPACE AND THIS IS SOMEONE WHO ISN’T? THIS IS SOMEONE WHO ISN’T? SO, ONE OF THE RECOMMENDATIONS SO, ONE OF THE RECOMMENDATIONS THAT WE HAVE IS TO THINK ABOUT THAT WE HAVE IS TO THINK ABOUT CATEGORYIZEING PEOPLE BASED ON CATEGORYIZEING PEOPLE BASED ON THINGS OTHER THAN RACE, OTHER THINGS OTHER THAN RACE, OTHER THAN GENDER, OTHER THAN THAN GENDER, OTHER THAN DISABILITY. DISABILITY. A LOT OF DATING APPS DO THIS BY A LOT OF DATING APPS DO THIS BY CATEGORYIZEING PEOPLE BY WHAT TY CATEGORYIZEING PEOPLE BY WHAT TY OF MUSIC, WHAT TIME DO YOU GO TO

5 thoughts on “Swipe Right: Are Dating Apps Helping Or Hurting Our Love Lives? | NBC News Now”

  1. There is so many fake profiles it's ridiculous. People just looking to play games because they're bored.
    I personally M in premium member of one of the dating apps and I wish I could get my money back.

  2. In my opinion dating apps foster a culture of convenience based relationships . Who needs commitment when your next experience is only an app swipe to the right away.
    People talk that they want commitment but their actions prove differently.

  3. If you don't know how to meet men or women you are a loser anyway.
    It trivializes relationships. You don't ever learn anything about a person on line.
    Get some your friends to get you some blind dates, and learn how real life works.
    It's dinner/ lunch ,not a make or break lifetime commitment.

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